- Question: please at least be willing to learn about what youre doing and saying is wrong but. if youre going to continue to be a total asshole then delete your blog and die - greekmaid
(i’ve lost count of the wishes for my death this morning, is this #6?)
Hey, @greekmaid: I have a surprise for you. Vastderp is, in fact, always willing to learn about what’s wrong with what he’s doing. All you have to do is actually offer any kind of coherent, useful, explanation.
Although, much though it may technically be a logical fallacy, I bet he tends to ignore people who habitually tell people with a long history of depression and suicidal ideations to die, because those people lack what we in the biz call “credibility” when it comes to moral judgment.
thanks but im tired of assholes i want all of them to leave his planet
It’s not just his planet, it’s everybody’s planet. And the fact is, you and your little circle-jerk of friends who are all trying to gang up on someone and ask everyone to send hate to him? You’re the assholes. Seriously. Actively soliciting “hate” as a thing? That’s asshole behavior, pure and simple. Doesn’t matter who you’re doing it to or why; you are being an asshole, and doing it fairly aggressively.
Look, try to understand: If you weren’t all teenagers who aren’t old enough to be legally responsible for your actions, this would actually be serious shit and people would give a fuck about it. And you would not be the heroes. You know those news stories about cyberbullies? You’re the bullies. You’re doing exactly the things that get all that news coverage about kids gone horribly wrong. As it happens, you’re all kids and we’re just laughing our asses off at this, because it is pretty much exactly like the thing where you rub a kitten’s belly and it tries to rip you to shreds and if you’re really unlucky you end up with these little pink lines where it almost sort of scratched the skin. But if you keep this shit up as you grow older, you’re gonna end up being news stories about why the parents didn’t intervene sooner before people got hurt.
bruh stop making US the bad guys like ??? stop defending him??? hes the one thats being an asshole. i understand and apologize for telling him to die, but dude. sexual harassment, triggering, being transphobic, (and probably a lot more things im not aware of) is 100x worse than calling someone out on their bullshit. im done with this convo
I’m not the one making you the bad guys. You are the ones who have repeatedly and consistently told him to die, continued doing so after finding out he was genuinely bipolar and had been struggling with depression for longer than you have been fucking breathing, picked fights, tried to organize groups of people to harass him, and all that.
Sexual harassment? Didn’t happen. There was no sexual harassment, or if there was, somehow none of you have actually had the ability to point to a thing and explain why you thought it was sexual harassment.
Transphobic? No, he’s not. Seriously, that’s fucking stupid. Do your research and spend five minutes on it. Consider a key question: Why are so many of the people defending him from your ill-considered attacks trans? Is it dimly possible that they are not idiots, and that they knwo something you don’t?
The thing is, what you guys have been doing hasn’t been “calling someone out on their bullshit”. All you’ve been doing is trying to pick on someone with severe long-term clinical depression and tell him to die a lot, call him names, organize groups of other people to attack him based on lies about what he’s done, and things like that.
You aren’t “done” with this convo, because you never started having a conversation in the first place. You have, in this entire scenario, not once actually said anything about the topic, other than that you hate someone you don’t know and want them to die.
You obviously don’t understand, and you haven’t apologized. Saying you apologize isn’t apologizing. An “apology” followed by saying that what someone else did is 100x worse than the lies you tell yourself to make you feel like you’re doing something good? That’s not an actual apology.
And seriously, grow the fuck up. I know you’re just a kid, but really, this kind of behavior would be sort of shameful in a thirteen-year-old. You’re older, and people are going to expect you to do better.
Here’s what better would look like:
- Never again tell people to die. Ever. In your life. Just don’t go there. That is not a thing that is appropriate for people to do to other people. Don’t bother suggesting exceptions; you have not lived through enough to have any idea what they might be, if there are any.
- Learn to slow down. Find out who you’re attacking before you attack them. For instance, if someone’s been advocating for LGBT rights for literally longer than you have been breathing, you might want to consider the possibility that if you think they are transphobic, it is because you have failed to understand something.
- Stop trying to make yourself feel good about things you do. Sometimes we do shitty things. Humans are like that. You got angry because your friend was upset, and then you did stupid shit. Trying to make this be all about how good you are and how bad someone else is is fucked up, and it’s made you do shit that, were you an adult, could get you in serious trouble.
- Go back and do your research. Figure out who you’re talking to and why your comments are being consistently met with derision and hostility from so many people who are long-term activists. (Seriously, I was publically arguing for gay rights in the 1980s.)
- If you really think a thing that happened was sexual harassment, explain what it was, and how you feel it meets the standards used to define “sexual harassment”.
- Also, stop calling people things like “gross” or “horrible”. People are too big and complex for you to reduce them to a single thing you hate and can’t respect. The entire reason LGBT rights is an issue that needs activism is that people decide that “gay is bad, this person is gay, therefore this person is bad”. But that is a problem no matter what characteristic you pick, even if it really is a bad characteristic. People are more complex than that, and they deserve respect as humans even if you hate something about them.
Notice how, even though I’m pretty dismissive of you, and I have never seen you do anything that is not abusive and shitty, I am treating you like you’re a person who has some kind of worth or value? I am doing that because it is the only way to interact with people that is actually worth the fucking time. If you’re not gonna do that, just don’t interact with people.
Thanks for your consideration. (And if you don’t bother, that’s okay, I wrote this so other people could think about it too.)
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You don’t realize you’re tone deaf until someone tells you that you’re singing off key. My comments earlier came from a narrow perspective (I’m a guy who thinks about design all day) and I’m honestly grateful to the people who graciously articulated how deep and wide this issue really is for them. My apologies to those I’ve offended. For someone in my position to come across as flippant is really shitty. It wasn’t my intent, but it’s still shitty and I’m sorry for that.
Additionally, I wasn’t trying to make fun of the Bingo game or the issues that birthed it. I thought it hit the nail right on the head. It’s important to be critical of these destructive tropes and cliches, otherwise they’ll stay exactly where they are. Wether they’re banished forever, or reclaimed by designers who treat the material and audience with respect, they’ve got to go. (In my artistic hubris, I do still believe that a handful of these squares could be reclaimed and subverted in interesting ways, but if I attempt to do so it will be done as personal work ONLY, not in my capacity as concept artist for Bioware.)
The issue of believable character design is a daily one for me. It’s been a ten year learning process. I’ve designed things I’m no longer proud of, but it has been open dialogue with passionate people like this that has helped me move forward. I’d encourage everyone to play the female armor bingo game when Inquisition comes out. Because of Bioware’s fantastic art team, I’m proud to say I think you’d be hard pressed to get a single square.
In closing, I’m sorry for minimizing an issue that means a great deal to people. My perspective is narrow, but I’m thankful to those who have been helping to widen it.
Wow. I’m floored and really touched by this apology. Thank you, Matt. As a long-time fan, I appreciate it very, very much.
That’s good to hear. Thanks for listening.
This is a good example of how to listen to criticism and apologise sincerely.
Thank you for listening to us, Mr. Rhodes.
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cis people demand that trans/nb people constantly out themselves as trans/nb so they don’t feel “deceived” or whatever the fuck but they refuse to use cis as a self-descriptor l m a o
I have seen this behavior, and I think it’s mystifying.
That said, the only people who’ve recently tried to demand that I be identified to them as unambiguously “trans” or “cis” or whatever have been social justice warriors on tumblr trying to determine whether I’m entitled to have an opinion.
Seebs tells it like it is. Also a while ago I said in my profile that I’m cis and out of nowhere I got a “you’re fucking cis scum” ask. So maybe thats why people dont put “cis” in their resume
Maybe they’re just trying to fill in the gaps in the experience, so everyone gets to know what it’s like to have random strangers hate you for having a particular gender identity which is just the way you happen to have been born? So helpful. Very justice. Wow.
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This lamp absorbs 150 times more CO2 than a tree
It’s still in the “so crazy it just might work” stage, but these microalgae-powered lamps, invented by French biochemist Pierre Calleja, could absorb a ton of carbon from the air every year. That’s as much as 150 to 200 trees. [x]
YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND. This is ingenious.
The design is a light bulb surrounded by a glass casing. The glass is filled with (water based) media and microalgae. The top is permeable to gasses so that gas exchange can occur. All of the wiring is linked to the grid underground.
Since the light source is inside, it gets scattered and “dimmed” by the water and algae. This makes it less glaringly bright and scatters the light wider, which is good for a street light. It is not longer white light as well, which helps make it easier on the eyes while still providing light.
At the same time, it provides the light for photosynthesis in the algae, so they are continuously exchanging CO2 for O2, not just in the day. It also provides a source of heat, which helps keep the algae from going dormant during cold weather (as in the snowy picture above).
And notice how I did not specify permeability - that’s because NOx’s (NO and NO2) are also permeable and can be used as nitrogen sources to microalgae. In fact, algae are relatively low maintenance. As autotrophs, they don’t require super complex media, not does it really need to be changed/added to. (I’m actually fairly certain that there would still be algae in these tanks a year later; it may need to be cleaned or something, but there would be some living algae.)
and they’re so pretty too
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